Thursday was the much anticipated and talked about Cowboys Packers Game. There is a long story on my trying to watch it, but I ended up going to Monica's house to watch it with Oscar and Joselo on their directtv. The Cowboys are doing great, but I really wanted them to go against a full healthy team so it could be more clear that they are the best in the NFC, dare I say NFL (shhh be quiet Patriots, you'll meet again.) This is the best time of the year for football.
Things seem to be going well for my brother Abram. He had an interview today to hopefully move from one type of manager to another. I'm sure they are impressed with his loyalty, his enthusiasm and most probably his work. It got me to thinking. So I have so many things I want for my family. It all comes from a good place, but I worry that it might not be the best way to think about things. For example, I want my parents to have a retirement hobby that helps them make enough money to enjoy their golden years. I want my sisters to get their college educations (even if it is online/part-time/community), I want my nieces and nephews to go to college and follow their dreams. I also would like Abram to be a lawyer at some point.
But it isn't about me and what I want. It is about them and what they want and what will make them happy. So my Dad always wanted Abram to be a teacher, as did my Mom. They felt the same way about Eliza, but their point of view was that it is a stable job that they enjoy and it will provide them with the security they wish for their kids. My Dad also wanted my brother to join the armed forces (somehow he never pushed that on me), but Abram followed his own path. Now Abram has his own dreams and I know his current career path is just a way for him to get where he wants to be, not the end in itself. I'm sure part of him is still trying to figure out what he wants, cause I'm sure I still don't know.
So all that being said, it is my advice that he not give up on going to law school. Right now seems like the most inconvenient time to apply and start considering where he is in life (same rationale goes for my sisters and college - it just doesn't seem feasible), but putting something off usually makes it not happen. (this is coming from a guy who knows all about putting stuff off, I promise Dad I'll send you those pictures.) Be it night school, or applying and deferring a year, I just feel like a degree in law will open up many doors for him. There are so many types of things you can do with a JD and who knows maybe he will just end up becoming a kick ass trial attorney. So I need to learn, to share advice and help, but understand that it isn't my life nor my choice and I might just be completely wrong. He might live a happier more successful life without ever going to law school (maybe it is the only way I know that should work). I need to not get married to my ideas when I put them out there.
Then you have the counter argument example. My nephew. It is time to apply for college and I'm pretty sure he is going to college, but the where is a big choice and what I worry about is that he won't give him self choices and that he will just back up into the default choice. Kind of like when you just don't pay the bill and accept the late fee, but still pay it later. I'm sure he is full of young idealism, having hopes that his band will make it big, that his current love will bring him the family life he desires. That might be true and I'm no one to try to shoot down a person's ambitions, but (let not call it what I want, lets call it my advice) my advice to him is you need a back up plan, a generic course that you can stray off of to pursue your own dreams so that you will have something there for you if life hits you with barriers. Part of me wants to say, give your dreams (ie music) your all, sell everything, give it everything, follow your ambitions...but though I think you should devote yourself to your dreams, the process of throwing away any alternatives (or burning the ships as they used to do) doesn't insure success nor do I think it actually helps motivation... I just think it adds undue stress to what is already a stress filled life. He has a good head on his shoulders and I care, that is why I think about him and his well being.
So that is me and my advice and two cents in general. You might wonder why I am writing it here instead of saying it to the actual people. The reason is that I wanted to think it out and sometimes writing something lets me look at the argument and truly see what I'm thinking if indeed it does make sense. It also helps me look at the error of my ways.
Today I picked up my new glasses. They are black rimmed and I think it will take some time to get used to them. The prescription is much higher than my current one, so I worry it might be too much, but I'll give it some time to see if my eyes adjust.
Here is my political talk of the day:
The other day I saw an interview (a rerun actually) of the Colbert Report with Naomi Wolf to promote her book "Then End of America" I liked the interview and think it is worth watching. Is fear the best device to combat the use of fear against us? Maybe knowledge is the device.
Here is a more optional YouTube Video going down all 14 signs of Fascism
I've been reading articles on this most probable cancellation of Tucker Carlson's show such as this one on Wonkette. The best part are the comments. One comment gave me the inspiration to write these thoughts since I've had them for a while.
If they actually have the good sense and taste to throw this smug weasel off the air, take heart - here's a capsule summary of every "*ucker" show ever:
1. Gross unsupported generalization
2. Flawed logic applied to above generalization
3. Therefore, Democrats are evil.
(punctuated by shrill interruptions of any guest who doesn't agree quickly enough)
He makes these insincere arguments that he thinks are so smart and insightful, but are just smug and actually intellectually dishonest. So today I'm watching a hostage situation on TV and seconds before a peaceful resolution and taking into custody of the suspect, he argues that he doesn't understand why the SWAT team doesn't just crawl in an air condition vent and take out this guy with a gernade, etc. The resident expert tells him that that is the exact opposite of the right thing to do and why not end a situation without violence where nobody has to get hurt. Those type of tactics can put hostages in danger and if the guy really had a bomb might cause him to take action where he might otherwise of just surrendered. It reminded me why I didn't like this guy. Not only did he make a stupid point, reality refuted it seconds later and the expert on hostage situations completely disagreed. Oh, btw I was watching as a holdover from hardball where I was following the breaking news.
so unfair to burden someone
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