Tomorrow, but for real

"A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears." - Woodrow Wyatt (1918~) English Journalist

I have this weird feeling inside me, I don't know what it is. It kind of feels like motivation. It feels like it has been a while since I have truly had that feeling. The problem is that feelings like this are fleeting, so I'm going to wait and see how long it lasts before getting entangled in some new project(s). It could also be the copious amount of caffeine I had this morning, so who knows. I am getting a lot of things done though and that always feels good.


This weekend I went downtown to hang out with my friend Oscar and his girlfriend. We checked out a new bar that I had never been to, but really liked. It was the first time I met his girlfriend and she ending up being a pretty cool chick. I always hope I make a good impression, but usually I'd rather just be me. I tend to ask a lot of questions when I meet new people, so I got to learn a lot about her background and their story together. I had an enjoyable night hanging out with them and they even invited me to go to Stubbs the following day to check out her brother's rock show. So her 15 year old brother is like a guitar prodigy and on Sunday night I got to see exactly why I had read all those amazing things about him online. He was also the lead singer of the band. The rock band was a little heavier than I expected, but I was amazed at his guitar playing skills and the fact he wrote those songs. I want to say the kid is gifted, but that might discount his hard work. He has an impressive road ahead of him.

'Unfriend' Is Oxford Dictionary's 'Word Of The Year'. I think it is a fitting word to win this year. The definition of the verb is just as you’d expect: “To remove someone as a ‘friend’ on a social networking site such as Facebook.” Several other tech and social media centric word choices were considered, including hashtag, sexting, freemium, and paywall. I'll be sure to talk about sexting another time. I've had my fair share of "unfriending" experiences in my short online social experience. First, I removed all my family members that were kids and too young to be online. 13 might be the cut off, but 18 and below and you are out in my book. I thought it would be nice at first to have this window into their world, but I was totally mistaken. First of all, they shouldn't read the sexist and adult comments that happen to find their way on my page. And more importantly, I don't want to read the filth they and their friends post on their own pages. Seriously, I want to shoot myself sometimes. It is like the idea of these kids as young innocent sweet teens is changed to obnoxious perverts who post way too many self pics. I think all their friends are bad influences and man the boys get started on the shady and douchy at such a young age. I don't have the energy to police that shit, so I just do what my mom did raising us as kids, just pretend it isn't happening and live in my own imaginary world where they aren't at all like me at that age. I will say, if I was a parent, I'd be all over my kid's page judging them and their friends trying to micromanage their choices until I learned how fruitless that approach probably is. I know, I'll probably be lazy about it.

On the same topic, the following article is great and very relatable: 12 Great Tales of Un-Friending. I will say that there are legit reasons to unfriend a person. One example I think is usually after you date a person and it doesn't work out, but you still give a shit. It seems petty, but I think it works on two levels. One, it stops your stalker like tendancies that make you join social networks to begin with and two, it gives you the freedom to move on. I'm sorry, but if I'm going about my day and I get a facebook update that the girl I was really into is about to go on a cruise with some guy, it is going to dampen my mood. Now if it wasn't a big deal, then yeah, my test is if I care to see the posts of guys hitting on her wall. If I don't mind, then it's cool. Maybe I'm too much of a believer of see no evil, hear no evil in many facets of my life. Then there is the person that farms too much, you know who you are. Though I may be guity of this sometimes. Turn the updates part off. I will say the "hide" feature has worked great on removing the too many applications posters while keeping them as my friends who I can still talk to. The cool thing is that of all the people that may have 'unfriended' me, I don't really know who they are or if they did remove me cause its not like you take roll. So its not like people feel bad when they are removed for the most part.

What I will say about Facebook is that on my 2nd and 3rd level friends that I know in passing or only through Facebook, over time you feel like you get to know them better. Questions I would never ask, like how many kids they have or whatnot, you find out over time and sometimes it paints a cool picture of someone you only thought you had an idea about. I think I've made some good friends of people I didn't know too well to begin with. Though I do have a few friends who don't know me and who I don't really know, but we have friends in common and if that was enough for facebook to suggest them, then its enough for me to have them as my 4th level friends.

On a final note, the new sexiest man was named today. I already forget who. Once again I did not win that honor, so maybe I should stop formally applying. This is what I think is bullshit, they change it every year. If you are the sexiest person, I think you should be dethroned like in boxing. The headlines should be, "So and So no longer sexiest man, grew ugly goatee and New So and So has moved up and taken the title." It just makes it mean less I think if a different person gets it each year. I will note that 3 people have gotten it more than once. I know this is just sour grapes though. Maybe next year.

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