"I don't know, I like to go on really different types of dates. Going someplace new or some new part of the city, something that's not your average thing. Something where you just go have an adventure together." - Rachel McAdams
I have been keeping busy lately, but it has resulted in putting off entries. This is unfortunate because I really enjoy writing and find journaling cathartic. 2012 is by far the year with the fewest entries and when you stop doing something it is harder to start again. You know, that is probably the theme of my life actually. My on and off relationship with the gym can tell you that, even though we are in a good place right now. I'm starting to realize that my Facebook status updates chronicle a lot of the things I would normally write about, which makes me less interested in putting my thoughts in a blog post about it later since it feels somewhat redundant. I think I'm ok with that. I'm going for a "quick" catch-all entry to cover the last six months or so I've been off keeping busy. I'm interested to see where this leads me.
The Year of Love
A theme I've talked a lot about in 2012 has been about this being the year of love, evidenced by the ungodly amount of weddings that have happened this year. (Think somewhere around 7 weddings.) So many friends and family members have gotten married this year that there has been so much to celebrate. All these weddings make you take stock of your own life too and focus on what you want instead of what you think you should want. Adding to this romantic theme, my college roommate, Juan Carlos also got engaged and married this year on August 17, 2012 to his fiancé Eloisa. They have such a sweet love story and I'm extremely excited for him and his sweetheart. They are perfect for each other. I wasn't able to make it to the wedding in NYC, but I can't wait to celebrate with everyone the next chance we get. The world is changing and people are growing up.
My brother Abram's wedding happened in October and I've written a more detailed entry to share my thoughts on that event here. So that about sums it up, and brings to an end a year where so many of my friends and family took such an important step forward in their lives. Here is hoping for continued love and happiness. Thank you for all the champagne toasts. Side note: I've resolved that for 2013 I'm going to drink champagne more, for no other reason than because it is great and shouldn't be horded for just special occasions.
Austin City Limits Festival
The Austin City Limits music festival is one of my favorite parts of the year. I have a lot of good memories from my experiences there. This year I had hoped that some of my out-of-state friends would come down to join me for Austin City Limits in October. I even purchased extra tickets a year in advance in anticipation. Unfortunately, due to other engagements and unforeseen time constraints they were not be able to make it. Maybe next year. I still ended up having a fun time at ACL and I got to hang out with a lot of my good Austin friends. I was most excited about seeing Weezer, a band I hadn't seen since college and whose early work defined my development. They didn't have a prominent time spot, but it didn't matter. There were a lot of good bands though, but I'm usually only familiar with the more established and famous ones. I enjoy live music, but sometimes it feels like too many people and three days of being outdoors can feel like an endurance contest. Nevertheless, I do always walk away having had a good time, despite the parking, crowds and weather. At one point during the festival, I got pushed backstage beyond the gates because of crowding and I just wandered around for a while seeing a whole other underworld of ACL filled with VIPs and worker bees behind the stages. It was interesting, but scared I might get in trouble, I found my way back inside the park much sooner than in retrospect I should have. I did miss one day of the festival because my niece Jamie who lives in the Valley had a high school band competition in Austin and I had never seen her show off her Drum Major skills. I was a very proud uncle that day. Both Jamie and her older sister Bekkah were drum majors, and at different schools. I've gone to ACL every year since I first moved to Austin in 2007 and each year has its own distinct memories that seem to pop up as certain songs play on the radio. This year I hung out with my friend Ricardo and even saw my friends Cynthia and Claudia. I hadn't seen much of my good friend Christina for the better part of the year, so it was nice to serendipitously run into her and her sister on the last day. I already have my tickets purchased for next year, which is going to be on two weekends. This is an open invitation to my out of state friends who would like to come visit in October 2013, it will be blast. That reminds me that I owe a lot of friends visits, and hopefully I'll get to visit Miami, LA, and DC this coming year. I really do miss these friendships and look forward to catching up.
The Austin Summer
I had a particularly good summer that was quintessentially Austin themed. I tried many new and fun experiences like stand up paddle boarding, kayaking, yoga, running my first 5K race, salsa lessons, beach volleyball, zip lining across Lake Travis, firework shows, and learning to hike/climb in Zilker for my Longs Peak trip to Colorado. I even decided to take on a half marathon. It was a summer filled with the fun and adventure of concerts, dates, drinks, good friends, catching up with old friends and even making some new ones.
A old friend of mine who I hadn't seen since college came to Austin to visit for a job interview and I got to share my adoration for the city with her. It is always nice to see how well people you crossed paths with in the past are now doing. In the end Austin wasn't the best choice for her at the moment, but it gave me the chance to remember that there is a lot to take advantage of here and I need to continue to expand my horizons.
Summer Gallivanting
When it comes to matters of the heart, I tend to keep those cards close and mostly private, but since I'm caught in a moment of general reflection, I do have a few things on my mind that I took away from the summer. This summer I ventured away from sporadic serial dating to a little more get-to-know-you-better low stakes type of dating. It is easy to get caught up in the short-term excitement of meeting someone new. I feel like each new person I meet helps me learn something new about myself. I not only refine who I am in the process, but also who I want to be.
I feel like what I value has changed over time as I have changed, although some of it is still very much the same. I make a lot of the same mistakes I've always made. Sometimes I confuse who I want a person to be (or wish they would be) with trying to get to know them and accept them for who they actually are. In the end knowing the true person may lead to incompatibilities that extinguish an imaginary future, but falling for aspirations usually leads to a future where you don't feel fulfilled. You really should believe someone when they show you glimpses of their true selves, but extrapolating one interaction to define a person can also leave you walking away prematurely. Everything is easier said than done and it is hard to be so rational when emotions are involved. I think we all essentially want the same things and hope can be an inspiring thing, but it can also make you less objective. That said, who can complain when you have a great time, grow from the experience and no one walks away with any lasting type of hurt. You can't blame a person for not being who you wanted them to be, but if the they don't convince you that you didn't know what you wanted, then when the excitement starts to fade you move on.
I keep being reminded, sometimes by experience, other times quite literally, that you need to live each day on its own and be more present since we are not guaranteed anything. Why not enjoy the each moment even if, like everything in this world, it cannot last forever. I get it, I do, and aspire to this, but I do qualify that with the fact that sometimes a moment's importance is underscored by what it means for the future. A string of moments can have more lasting impact than a solitary one. The idea of insulating yourself from pain seems prudent, there is always the fear that it keeps you from fully enjoying the positive feelings that are right in front of you. There are enough jaded people in this world to add another one.
The Fall of Transition
The fall snuck up on me, which is much easier in a place like Texas where it can feel like summer late into the fall at times. In the late summer and early fall my professional life became particularly busy, so my socializing decreased, but I tried to hold on to some work-life balance. I was working until 8pm some nights and even on weekends on my own volition always feeling one action item away from where I needed to be. I did get a reprieve and now things are back to normal, but it reminded me how thankful I am that I don't life that type of life. It also reminded me that I need to focus on being more efficient so that I can better handle opportunities like that.
In my home life, I took some time for myself to try and get things in order. I started to put more time into home organizing and cleaning, but somehow I always feel like I can't make a lot of headway in that department. Things always look 10 times worse halfway through my cleaning project than when I started. A girl I lived with once shared with me the old adage, "a place for everything and everything in its place." I'm not very good at finding a place for everything to begin with, which might explain why everything isn't always in its place. One of my goals is to reduce the amount of clutter that I have, namely accepting that my definition of clutter is way too narrow and that old battery charger I never used is probably better suited for the trash than taking up space in my closet because I might need it one day. The problem is that I thrive on clutter, maybe because that is how my brain is organized. That doesn’t mean that I still can’t work on reducing it and managing it better. Don't get me wrong, I'm relatively organized for a guy, but my socks don't always find the hamper until laundry day and I'm not the best at getting the dishes washed in a timely manner. Speaking of clutter, it is hard to throw out a perfectly good looking shirt just because odds are that I’ll probably never wear it. That leads to a closet of approximately 60% of clothes just taking of space.
My Television Shows
I read this Onion article yesterday and it made me laugh, a lot. [In Focus] Area Man Constantly Mentioning He Doesn't Own A Television. I've run into that so much these fast few years, it even makes me laugh now. Though I did meet a girl who didn't have a TV, but she didn't tell me until I directly asked her. I gave her credit for not mentioning it at the first reference to a TV show. The beginning of the fall tv season is usually a big deal for me as I follow quite a few shows. This year I didn't care too much about it and just let the DVR take care of it. I've cut down a lot of my TV watching, especially cable news. Well I did break that rule for the weeks heading up to the election, but for me that is the Superbowl of cable news, so I allowed myself that indulgence. I think that if I didn’t have one more year left on my DirecTV
contract, I would probably consider trying to cutting the proverbial cord and try getting away with just
using over the air and Internet sources for my TV watching. The
problem is, even if I could make that work, there is something very convenient
about having a DVR that I can pause and watch in any room of the house. Damn you convenience. All that said, I recently marathon caught up on Season 3 of the Walking Dead.
The 2012 Election
I'll skip the usual politics diatribe as most people have their own established views. Needless to say, I was happy with the outcome of the election and was proud that I exercised my right to vote. I enjoy political discussions more than the average person, but hate how divisive some of the issues can make people. I'm adamant about my policy positions, but enjoy learning information that can help me change my mind. The important thing is that I don't dislike people for having different view points and most of the time they don't affect your daily interactions with people, no matter how fundamentally different they can be. Either way, I am happy my President won for reasons you can ask me about in person, though I must say I'm mostly relieved.
The 2012 Election
I'll skip the usual politics diatribe as most people have their own established views. Needless to say, I was happy with the outcome of the election and was proud that I exercised my right to vote. I enjoy political discussions more than the average person, but hate how divisive some of the issues can make people. I'm adamant about my policy positions, but enjoy learning information that can help me change my mind. The important thing is that I don't dislike people for having different view points and most of the time they don't affect your daily interactions with people, no matter how fundamentally different they can be. Either way, I am happy my President won for reasons you can ask me about in person, though I must say I'm mostly relieved.
The Wilfred Costume Halloween
I had a great Halloween experience this year. My friend Danny invited me to a Halloween Weekend Party. I really appreciated the invitation as his friends always seem to be up to something fun. I decided to work on my home made outfit and make it into a Wilfred costume. I think I enjoy creative projects more than I thought and can really get into them. My costume wasn't done in time for the party as the tail was still unsewn and I almost decided to flake, but I am glad I didn't. When I got to Danny's place, I was quickly impressed with the costume selections. Danny dressed up as Launchpad Mcquack, which was very clever and brought back some fun Duck Tales memories. I got to meet some of Danny's friends, TJ, Caroline, and Lindsey. They dressed up as a 70s style pimp, a Top Gun character and Snow White respectively.
We then headed off to the house party and on the way I had some good conversations with TJ about improv and some of his stand up. The costume party was impressive. Beer, drinks and costume contest, it was very well done. My silly dog outfit got very positive reviews which made me feel very good.
I met some really cool people and had some engaging conversations with Lindsey who I had just met. I was very impressed with the creatively of all the costumes, from Breaking Bad, Star Wars, Waldo, Dr. Seuss, troll dolls, Hunger Games, to an Owl. I was also happy to see a lot of friends I hadn't seen in a while like Bernie and had jungle juice for the first time probably since college. It was a memorable night.
On the actual night of Halloween which fell on a Wednesday, I had candy at my house for the trick-o-treaters. The year before hardly anyone came, but this year I was swamped with little kids from ages 2 to 14 and it wasn't long until I was out of candy. I'm still not sure how much candy per kid I'm supposed to give out, but if I erred, it was on the too much side. It didn't take long to learn that "as much as you can grab in one hand" was not the best approach. After the candy was out, I turned out the lights and I headed downtown in my Halloween costume to have some drinks with Itamar, his wife and their friends.
It was an enjoyable night despite being a weeknight and somewhat of a shadow of the weekend Halloween celebration. I probably had the most conversations with random strangers that night than I had ever had. I bet a guy from Australia who appreciated my choice of Wilfred. I'm always so impressed with how much thought goes into some people's costumes. There were two couples that dressed up, so I'm told, as Moonrise Kingdom characters and happened to run into each other. I need to see this movie.
Lamby Pie!
I did have a moment that was by far my Halloween highlight. I had called it a night and was walking back to my car after having been very disappointed in how 6th Street on Halloween night wasn't the way I remembered it. I had still had a good night and was in a chipper mood, but was ready to get home. As I'm getting near my car a black SUV at a stop light opens their window and asks me for a photo of my costume. Having done a few photos that night, I was like sure, expecting a photo out the window of me posing. Instead, they stop traffic and open the door to get out and take the photo with me. That was nice I thought. Then I look at who it is that is getting out and I'm shocked to see it is Jessica Alba and a friend I guess. Yes, the beautiful actress I first got to know in Dark Angel so many years ago. She was in town filming a movie. Jessica, or Jess as I call her in my head, was sure I was a lamb called Lamby Pie and I went with it because, for her, I would totally be anything. (Side note: actually, my costume looks so much like a lamb, I might remake it into Lamb Chop one of these years. I can spend the night singing the song that doesn't end.) Her bodyguard or male friend gets ready to take the photo as her and her friend hug me from the sides. How I could be any happier? Jess reminds me that lambie-pie does the peace sign, of course, how could I forget, still having no clue which character I was portraying, so I did my peace sign and the picture was taken. The body guard guy would not take a photo with my phone with an explanation that was more of a look that conveyed "never gonna happen" rather than a clear verbal reason. I didn't care and just tried to enjoy the moment that a celebrity asked for a photo with me. It really made my night, was a wonderful memory, and capped off a very fun Halloween.
By the way, some research on the internets revealed that there is a doll from I think the 80s called Lamby Pie, which I can say I did look very close to. I can see why she thought that, but talk about a particular reference.
Running - Half Marathon
This section on my running stories was going to be part of this catch-all entry, but it got so long I decided to do a full separate entry on it here.
Holidays
Thanksgiving is right around the corner, man that came fast. My plan was to stay in Austin since Christmas is so close and two trips down to the Valley in such a short period just seemed like a hassle right now. But as things turned out, I'm instead going to Ft. Worth to visit my grandmother who I haven't seen in few months. It will be nice to spent some time with her as it has been too long. We used to talk a lot on the phone, but now that she has been battling illness after illness, we talk on the phone a lot less. My mother and sister Ana drove up to Ft. Worth for Thanksgiving too and stopped at my house on the way up. It was nice visiting with them and I'm always impressed with how much stuff, namely ice chests full of food, that my mom travels with. I'm sure everyone will be happy when they try the tamales.
I'm looking forward to Christmas and need to get on my gift shopping. Despite my agnostic leanings, Christmas is still one of my favorite holidays, which ironically is simultaneously one of the most religious and most secular holidays there is. I see it as part of the year where you refresh, reflect and get ready for the next year upon you. It is like one big holiday that starts on Christmas eve and ends on New Years day for me. You get to reconnect with family and every now and then you get surprised with a present you weren't expecting, but absolutely love. It also doesn't hurt that my birthday comes two days after Christmas too, making it that much more of a super holiday.
Looking Forward
It has been a good year so far and that was not the feeling I had as it started. I feel more filled with optimism and hope than I have been in a while. From trying new things to getting to know new people, I have a feeling that the months ahead have a lot to look forward to. By the way, I'm well aware that I probably took some liberties with the word "quick" when referring to this entry in the intro, but that is what happens when you take too much time off.
It is easier to know about a person than to know a person.







